Monday, December 14, 2015

Don't be the same, be better.

There's one quote that I found in the internet and since then I always tell myself that all the time, "Don't be the same, be BETTER" and that is the best thing that ever happened to my life.

Looking at Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Warren Buffet, Mark Zuckerberg, and many other great people that I admired. I can say that I'm quite slow in realizing my life call and quite late in chasing over my dream. So I tried to get as much as possible, learn as many things and absorb everything I need in order to be better. But it's just not enough, I felt that my progress is still slow, there's so many things that I'm still lacking. I'm frustrated and stressed. Thinking that I'm still far from what I want to achieve.

A few days ago I joined a contest to prove my ideas of a startup, although a lot of good response, in the end the result did not satisfy me. If only I haven't read Susie Pan Article I might try to push myself harder and stressing the tired body of mine even more.


"As long as I have learned something, and that I’ve created some value in someone’s life, today was a good day. 
I’m only 23. And yes, in 1.5 years, I will be 1/4 of a century old. But that gives me 3/4 of a century more to keep learning and creating value. That’s 657,000 more hours I have to do whatever else I want to do with my life. 
Susie, you’re only 23. Stop rushing life."


When I read that, I came back to my senses. Life is more than just "this". You got make the best of everything, even lazy-ing around got it's purpose. Life is about moving forward in balance.

Looking backward in those past few month, I realized that I already change so much, I already become someone better.


Sunday, November 15, 2015

Use your time wisely

Doesn't mean to judge, but sometimes I can't fathom how easily people get into a relationship. I don't know if they did think about it real hard or they just didn't think at all. After all, love can be a bit confusing and make your brain stop working.




For me to be in a relationship it took a lot of consideration, I don't want my relationship to be some sort of short fling where it end up as a bad memory. So I rather to be alone than to be in a wrong relationship. 

For me personally, there's nothing worse than wasting your precious time into something that break you instead of building you up. Yes you can feel a bit lonely sometimes, but I prefer to use my time wiser. Like boosting up my personal qualities. Making the unique quality of me-ness shine more.

I know this statement of mine is a bit controversial and can argued. But trust me, I have felt it and I have seen a lot of examples. The people who stand out of the crowd, who is charismatic and the one who changed the world.





Tuesday, September 29, 2015

The Infantry Man

There is this fairy tale that had been sticking into every girl's dream, it is to wait for their knight in shining armour to come and fetch them. That is a very nice dream and I can say that it's quite true. Life is a war, a constant battle with every other man and the life itself. And to put it simple man can be divided to three.

First, The Cavalry (Mounted knight), he who was born better, blessed with a kickstart. The cavalry man can easily become the knight of shining armour. They didn't even have to sharpen their own sword or polishing their own armour, There will always be somebody who can do that for them. Hell, they don't even have to fight the war. I got no respect for this kind of man but, there are a few exception, the few who are willing to go to the front line, sharpen their own sword, let their armour scratched and polish their armour back again. And I respect  these kind of men better.

Second, The Esquire, he who was born without ambition or the will to thrive. He whose sole purpose is to support the knight. The Esquire, who although seems unfavourable and at the lowest caste was actually has a very important part in war. If every man wants to be a knight and infantry, there will be no one at the back to tend their wound or to help them putting their armour and removing them. Every knight needs a good esquire and a good esquire is very hard to be found. If you have one or when you found one, you better take a good care of that person.

Third, The Infantry (Foot knight), he who was born low but have the will to thrive in live. The infantry is the always at the front of the war zone and the first to engage with the enemy. Their armour was full of scratches and hole since it always clash with enemies weapon so that it can never be shining and their sword can't never be sharpened enough as it is always being use. In order not to be killed or overwhelmed by the enemies they had to rely on every inch of their body to survive. This make that every Infantry who survived very skilled or cunning.

"If you can't be the first to strike, be the best or the strongest"

I, for myself, can be said as the infantry, although I can't yet to call myself the best now, I'll be come one later. I don't want to wait for the ball to come anymore, It's time for me to go and fetch the ball myself. I'll step on everybody who hold me or weight me down. Either you walk with me or get the hell out of my way.

I don't have dreams anymore, I have GOALS to achieve !


Monday, August 31, 2015

Desiderata


    Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
    and remember what peace there may be in silence.

    As far as possible without surrender
    be on good terms with all persons.

    Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
    and listen to others,
    even the dull and the ignorant;
    they too have their story. 

    Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
    they are vexations to the spirit.

    If you compare yourself with others,
    you may become vain and bitter;
    for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

    Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
     

    Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
    it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

    Exercise caution in your business affairs;
    for the world is full of trickery.

    But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
    many persons strive for high ideals;
    and everywhere life is full of heroism. 


    Be yourself.

    Especially, do not feign affection.

    Neither be cynical about love;
    for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
    it is as perennial as the grass. 


    Take kindly the counsel of the years,
    gracefully surrendering the things of youth.

    Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.

    But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.

    Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

    Beyond a wholesome discipline,
    be gentle with yourself.
     

    You are a child of the universe,
    no less than the trees and the stars;
    you have a right to be here.

    And whether or not it is clear to you,
    no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
     

    Therefore be at peace with God,
    whatever you conceive Him to be,
    and whatever your labors and aspirations,
    in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
     

    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
    it is still a beautiful world.

    Be cheerful.

    Strive to be happy.

     


    Max Ehrmann, Desiderata, Copyright 1952.

Sunday, August 30, 2015

Working With Passion.

Hi there, It's been a long time since you saw my post. Sorry for that.. Not really. Haha.. Well,it's just I was quite occupied with work. Yeah.. Work ! (and side business)

I don't know if I say this too soon or not. But I felt that I finally found the place I can work with passion. The work is still in the line of my career, nothing much had change in that, only the environment that is different. Everything seems to be more exciting and challenging at the same time. After a few days working in this company I was like, "WOW ! This is the kind of place I've been looking for, for quite a long time. I can learn a lot here."

The work mates also very supporting and caring especially my supervisor. He is very smart and kind, quite fun and also very sincere. I respect him for that. On my first day it doesn't felt awkward a bit. Everything just went perfectly natural and everyday I work here, I felt that time pass very fast and 24 hours doesn't seems enough. Every morning I wake up with excitement to go to work even though it took me 45 minutes to 1 hours riding to go to the office from my place. I usually hated commuting or riding that long and far.

Well.. I hope that this new place can bring me to a higher place and a better tomorrow. This time I will stay for quite a long time, maybe..


P.S. DO what you love and LOVE what you do. If you can't ? It wasn't meant for you, keep looking.

Friday, July 24, 2015

Built not to fit in

All this time. The longing of having friends that can understand me. Wanting to be like every other person in this world with the joy of friendship and all the happiness that they can share.

All those wasted effort trying to fit in..

And all these unanswered questions, "how can they have a close friend they can share everything with ? How can people have that many friends ? How can they open themselves and let it bare to other people ?"

Until I realize that I wasn't built to fit in. I was built different. Like the leader that must walk in front of his people by himself. A lonely road only the first or the strongest can feel.

This realization freed me. And when one truly understand himself, it is when he achieved true freedom and obtain his full potential.

To you guys out there who think like me and feel like me, never ever try to fit in. When you live only to please others around you, you only realize that it is never end. You are special, people like you and me, are the person that will change this world. The road of success can only be open by that person itself.

P.S. It is a rough road that leads to the heights of greatness. - Lucius Annaeus Seneca


Sunday, July 12, 2015

Your life is in your own hands.


This statement were spoken by him in his Stanford commencement speech. I think that most of the people who ever heard about this statement by Steve Jobs agree with it, but not all really understand what is the meaning of it. a few month ago I was one of the many who agree but didn't really understand it.

I was so focused in looking for jobs and when I get it, I became comfortable and ignored my calling to become an entrepreneur, to work on my own business. Until reality hit me in the face and awake my cautiousness. You'll never be able to rest with ease when you are working with somebody else especially for you who are the type that can't or don't want to learn to create supplementary income.

It's not up to you to work in that company or to maintain your position, your life are on the palm of your boss. You are never safe, it doesn't matter how good your works are, it doesn't matter if you are the employee of the month, it doesn't matter how long you have worked. There are my factors out there that can throw your life out of balance. (exp google this company; Enron, Lehman Brothers, Nokia, La Senza) When your company or your boss laid you off, you'll be at risk of losing your life support even your pension fund.

So heed me out and start early, it doesn't mean that you have to stop working directly and entirely, but be smart. Separate your income and make another source of income aside from your salary. If this side-job / supplementary income already can support your life or even make your life better. Consider quitting your job, get your pension early.

Cause trust me, nothing is more reassuring than to have your life in your hands.


P.S. for anyone who haven't seen Steve Jobs commencement speech, here's the link. Enjoy.


Wednesday, June 3, 2015

Help When in Need

There these mindset that's been bothering me for a very long time. Like why people hate people who only came to them when they want something from them.

I don't get the point of why they sad . Isn't that the point why you look for people ? When you have business with them it means you want something from them. Like when look for your mom when you can't find your things in your messy room. It's natural ! And it's better than having those people sticking up to you and poking you 24hours with nothing to do. It's annoying as hell. Trust me. I know.

Second is why people only hope their friends to share only happiness with them. The way most people make friends are like "hey come find me when you are having fun or give some piece of that happiness of yours" but not "Come find me when you have problems or here take some of my happiness when you are in trouble." Most of the people hate to get more burden than they already have by their own. Knowing or asking "what's the problem?" to your partner can sometimes or most of the times involve the asker into the mess. That's why some people prefer not to ask and some just ask casually but when the one they asked burst out. They starting to fade away.

This is the reason why nowaday most people are reluctant to tell their problems and dilemma. When you are vunurable, seeing the people that close to you fade away will only break you more. So "I'm Okay" became the safest answer.

Please people, change your perspective and be sincere when you ask. Even if you can't help them 100% at least being there listening to their problem can help them a lot. It's psychologically proven that sharing can ease up distressed people.

For me personally, I don't really need people to make me 'more' happier when I'm already happy. I need them when I'm in trouble when I'm in distress. That's why my level of careness rise up when I saw my friends or family in trouble. I prefer to share more of the bad than the good. People need you more when they had something bad in their life. It's the had truth, when they are happy it's obviously their mind are occupied or mostly doesn't think a lot.

So, don't hesitate to reach out for me. I'll try my best to help you.


Wednesday, May 6, 2015

Act now or never

Hi,guys.. Recently I'm starting to make my idea and dream become reality. I want to build up my own startup. *jrengjreng
So I dug up all of my past ideas and come up with the most brilliant ideas of all. This is the idea that I got in my mind for a very long time, I thought it's time to make it happen. I'm really- really happy cause I thought that this definately will become the most feasible and the most brilliant ideas.

But F*ck me, no it isn't !

After a long analysis and market research I found out that even though my idea is unique in some part but the component of the ideas were already implemented by another recent start-up. It hit me quite deep.

I always thought that I have a great mind and can always thought about things that other people can't. But the truth tell me differently and I learned that even the most brilliant idea at the time, if you didn't directly act to make it happen, there will be other people who come up with those same brilliant ideas and act.


Let this be a warning for you the bright minded people, if you have something in your mind, don't wait, ACT NOW ! make it happen ! no one can make your dream happen except yourself. Don't wait until it's too late.

And when you thought that you already riding your dream. Don't slack. Time is ticking and there are a lot of new people outside that have more previlege than you.



P.S. This saying can be applied in any part of your life, not only when you are chasing your dream. Tik Tok

Wednesday, April 29, 2015

The Feeling of Wanting to Always Be Better

This past weeks I have realize one thing about myself. I don't know if this happen to all people or not, but for me there's this greed I have, a constant feeling of wanting be be better in everything. I want to know more, I want to upgrade my standard of living, I want to become smarter, I want to be richer, I want to be stronger, I want to be wiser. I want to be better mostly in everything.

Well this feeling weren't as strong as it was before. I think it's because of the change of environment around me now. I feel challenged to be better now than ever. The question is it a good thing or not ? Well depends on the point of view I think. Some people say that it's a good thing, it means that I have the urge to thrive. That feeling of wanting to be better, the greed, are great in some area of life. It's okay if you can contain it in some context.


But in some other people point of view say, it's not a good thing, if I let it flow for too much and can't control it, the greed will become unsatisfiable. Luckily for me, I also have quite a high feeling of being a grateful person but for you who didn't my advice for you are to meditate more and try to see from the point of view of people who have less than you. So that the greed won't consume you.
"A ticking time bomb inside you cannot be defused by other people."


People who have nothing, want nothing and expect nothing are the happiest people in the world. I know it's a very cliché things to say but there are people like that in this world and most of that people are the people who have nothing to begin with.


P.S. Everything is okay when it is okay, not too much, not too little.

Thursday, April 9, 2015

The Risk of Not Taking a Risk

Well as you can see from the title, today I'll be talking about chances. But first let me tell you a story,

Recently I just move out to a new city and as a guy who live alone I have consider to adopt a pet. To adopt a pet, it's almost like to be in a relationship (except this one is a bit furry) it needs a considerable amount of commitment. Which, I'm currently not really ready for. But the urge to have companionship are so strong that I spent this couple of days researching and googling about cats (I also happen to be a very cat person).

After a long consideration about my packed schedules and agenda I decided to drop the issue about adopting pet and move on with my life. But, what an odd, when I walk in the street today, I saw a strange cat. It's a street mixed breed cat, almost like the standard medium munchkin. My first thought was "okay, that a beautiful cat." then I walk away.

As I walk a second thought hit me "Wait a minute, there's no way the owner of a cat like that let it roam in the street. It could be got away or the owner just irresponsibly throw it out. F*ck I gotta go back, if it's true then I can keep it." Then I ran back, but the cat was nowhere to be found anymore. I look around and still no luck. *sigh (whenever I remember it my heart ache)

So.. In this story the cat represent the chances. There are a lot of types of chances but a really big one can pass you through at anytime, in any moment of your life. Some people are blessed that they able to recognize and capture it, some are not even aware.

But the one that I can't tolerate is the kind of people who knew that there's a chance but doesn't want to take it. Because they thought they are already comfortable with their current situation, because they thought that taking this chance means they will risk their stability. You know what ? You might think that by preserving your comfort zone you will be able to get through life safely but, let me tell you something, the only things that never change in this world are the changes itself.

What you think today as something comfortable can change in the future, what you think as a stable income, stable job, stable relationship can change overnight if it's not by you it can be by other factors out of your control. Economic collapse, depreciation, more handsome guy, etc. 

By staying put you already risking your own growth and future.

So, won't it be wiser to use the risk to expand your worth ?








Sunday, March 22, 2015

Good or Bad ?

I have a dream, I have an ambition. As a man of ambition I had to sacrifice a lot of things in order to achieve my dream. For the last 24 years I've been sacrificing my relationship and all the fun that usually teenagers did. Kinda regreting it a little, but I know that I did the right thing. Even though my dream were still nowhere closer.

I came from a very ordinary household with an "enough" economical situation. It's a tough start to begin with and my ambition aren't an ordinary ambition. I've seen a lot of people with a tougher situation than me but became a great person later. I can say that I'm grateful.

The only problem that I can't seems to shake off from my mind is that I often made judgement base on emotion, which is not a good trait of a great achiever. One reason why I tried to avoid relationship was because of this too. When I get close to someone my mind often got clouded and my decisions are biased. I can alter my way just to be able to be with the person I love.

Well, if it's a mutual preference and if the partner can build the dream together then I might be okay with it, but often relationship and ambition can't work well together. So I lay waste to my dream and ambition only to be with person who are not priotizing us. Now I made a promise to myself that I will not take decisions base on people anymore. Never! (well okay, I tried) It's hard to change a habit, especially when you are build that way. (emotionally sensitive guy, damn. what kind of man I am ? It's against nature!)

A close friend of mine once said that I can be a great lover. But I don't want to be a great lover (yet). At least not until I get what I want and find who I want to be with for the rest of my life.
"Being too attached to someone in early stage is a relationship killer." - Relationship advice 101


P.S. are you the one ?

Tuesday, February 24, 2015

The average 70%

Through my time serving in the societies, I have seen and met with a lot of people, various types, background and characters. I've learned to sympathize and build empathy for the people who are less blessed than me. But, not a lot of people think like me.

I can't say that I'm a smart person. I got an average brain, average grades and average skills. There is a lot of people like me out there, around 70% of the world population. That's a lot of competition, consider there are 7 billion people in this world (70% means that you have to compete with 5 billions people). We can't compete with the smart 10% of the population, they are outstanding, when we are gathered in one room for an interview with one of them we're look like a donkey. That's why if we want to raise our level of welfare took us a very long time, like 20 years/ 30 years something. There are even some of us who couldn't prosper even after that, I've seen some of the examples, a whole life spent struggling.

You can see that nowadays a lot of people trying to be famous and rich by losing respect. Well, I kinda understand. In order for people like me who have big ambitions in their mid 20s to be acknowledge or stand out over the crowd, they resort to something shameful or controversial.

Well me ? I prefer to use the ordinary way, using the ladder of hard work and career. It's not easy, I can say that I have spent a considerable amount of time putting resume, doing interviews, and getting rejected. But doing so, giving me a chance to meet with a lot of smart and great people. Some of 'em are a blessing, they are willing to teach and guide you, didn't close their eyes and look down on you. But some of 'em are just an ass, they are lack of empathy and compassion. Maybe they've been blessed with easiness in their life that they can't feel the harsh life of people around them.

Life isn't fair, do not expect sympathy from others. No one can help you but yourself, be your own hero.

Sunday, February 22, 2015

The Science of Never Give Up

Hey guys, It's been a long time since I posted something. Actually I made a lot of drafts but just too lazy to edit it or complete the draft. But here is something that I thought absolutely needed to be posted.

So I read this one article from Elite Daily and the opening paragraphs are so true that it's just hit me so hard.

"Unemployment is terrifying. It’s a state of limbo that makes it impossible to stop deliberating over the future. 
In a society that celebrates wealth and often judges people based on their profession, unemployment feels like a curse.

The worst part of being unemployed is all of the rejection. The endless cycle of cover letters, résumés, interviews and impersonal “you didn’t get the job” emails chip away at your self-esteem. It’s easy to feel like there’s no point to any of it."

Yeah, I've been there. In fact, right now I'm still in that cycle. There are few times when I got accepted to an interview with the company that I really want to work with and when I thought that my chances are high to be accepted, things just went south.

It really break me.

I don't know where to find answers of how I failed, when you asked the HR, they will only reply with
"Whilst we make every effort to provide feedback, due to the high volume of applicants for this position, we are unable to communicate specific areas of improvement to every candidate."

So, I'm f*ck up. I don't know where the mistakes are and when there's another interview, I don't know where to fix. So once again I will fail.

But, that's not the point, the point here is to never give up. Right now, I might not be as successful as Steve Jobs or Jack Ma, yet. I'm still at my lowest point here, but I ain't giving up, one day for sure I will stand side by side with them. wish me luck.


"When life throw you out of balance, it will add more weight in your wisdom scale."



Quick tip :
A good cover letter can help you land more interviews. So pay more attention to it. ;)

Sunday, January 4, 2015

A flight that never came back..

On 28 December 2014, Airasia flight from Surabaya to Singapore gone missing after 8 minutes take off from Surabaya. Just like any other flight accident I never really put my thought in it, because usually it doesn't have any connection with me. But this accident, this time.. It's different, I got a family on board. he is my father nephew, going to spend New Year holiday in Singapore with his girlfriend and her family.

http://news.detik.com/read/2015/01/03/173133/2793283/10/1/kisah-pilu-themeiji-liburan-bersama-ibunda-dan-asmara-sang-putri

The feeling is uncanny and there's a lot of dismay. After three days it was confirmed that the airplane went down to the sea. On the first day the unclear information and the rumors giving me some hopes that there could be someone who survived. I prayed that they were included between the survivors and they were drifted to nearby island. But seeing how fierce the waves at that time through the news, I'm starting to lose hope.

With so many people saying condolences starting to revolve in our family, I still didn't want to admit it. I don't want to tell the obituary as long as the bodies haven't been found.

But now..

It's confirmed.
http://news.detik.com/read/2015/01/04/161758/2793615/10/jenazah-stevie-gunawan-disandingkan-dengan-jenazah-ibunya-di-adi-jasa

Goodbye cous.. I know that you got a better holiday there..