Wednesday, June 3, 2015

Help When in Need

There these mindset that's been bothering me for a very long time. Like why people hate people who only came to them when they want something from them.

I don't get the point of why they sad . Isn't that the point why you look for people ? When you have business with them it means you want something from them. Like when look for your mom when you can't find your things in your messy room. It's natural ! And it's better than having those people sticking up to you and poking you 24hours with nothing to do. It's annoying as hell. Trust me. I know.

Second is why people only hope their friends to share only happiness with them. The way most people make friends are like "hey come find me when you are having fun or give some piece of that happiness of yours" but not "Come find me when you have problems or here take some of my happiness when you are in trouble." Most of the people hate to get more burden than they already have by their own. Knowing or asking "what's the problem?" to your partner can sometimes or most of the times involve the asker into the mess. That's why some people prefer not to ask and some just ask casually but when the one they asked burst out. They starting to fade away.

This is the reason why nowaday most people are reluctant to tell their problems and dilemma. When you are vunurable, seeing the people that close to you fade away will only break you more. So "I'm Okay" became the safest answer.

Please people, change your perspective and be sincere when you ask. Even if you can't help them 100% at least being there listening to their problem can help them a lot. It's psychologically proven that sharing can ease up distressed people.

For me personally, I don't really need people to make me 'more' happier when I'm already happy. I need them when I'm in trouble when I'm in distress. That's why my level of careness rise up when I saw my friends or family in trouble. I prefer to share more of the bad than the good. People need you more when they had something bad in their life. It's the had truth, when they are happy it's obviously their mind are occupied or mostly doesn't think a lot.

So, don't hesitate to reach out for me. I'll try my best to help you.